On Wednesday (18-Sep-2013) evening, a village in Haryana looked on as a girl was lynched by her family, and a boy beheaded. Hours ago, they had returned to the village, thinking that their families would finally allow them to marry.
The girl’s parents and uncle have been arrested and her brother is missing since the crime, a shocking example of medieval-style killings in the name of ‘family honour‘ in Chief Minister Bhupinder Singh Hooda’s hometown, Rohtak, and in a village just 80 km from the capital.
Nidhi Barak, 20, and Dharmender Barak, 22, eloped and went to neighbouring Delhi on Tuesday, since their families back in the Gharnavati village did not approve of their relationship. Nidhi was a student of fine arts, while Dharmender was pursuing a technical course.
Nidhi’s parents allegedly persuaded her to come back, promising not to harm the young lovers.
The police say what followed was hours of torture for the couple at Nidhi’s home, ending with their death. The girl was beaten to death in full public view. The boy was brutally beaten and his arms and legs broken, before he was beheaded. His headless body was allegedly dumped at a public square in the village.
The family of the girl was allegedly caught in the act of cremating her, when a police team arrived. They had been alerted by a villager. The police then took the girl’s half-burnt body and the boy’s remains for a post-mortem.
– NDTV
The ages are gone where selecting your partner was mere a custom or a tradition. Marriages are now viewed on various perspectives not just as an implication by the parents. An individual who will lead the life together with someone has every right to decide whom should she / he get married. Half of the arrange marriages are done with some implied pressure on either the groom or the bride.
Many youngsters are willing to make their decision when it comes to love and marriage. In India parents still have a narrow thinking in this and hardly support if their son or daughter decides on his/her own. Some extreme decision taken by a few parents are barbaric and this act shocked me, but it is a routine in India.
The lack of maturity of the society is the cause of this kind of brutal murders. The society is the first criminal to impose some kind of social and cultural pressure on marriage, which is purely an act of commitment to live together between two souls. After a certain level even their parents do not have rights to interfere, this may be harsh for sentimentalists but a true fact of life, i.e. For a husband wife is the first and a half of his soul and vice versa for the wife. At some point parents should realize they need not to hand hold their children anymore once they are matured to handle their life. If they make any wrong decision, parents can do anything to explain them the scenario and make them realize if it is wrong. Taking “Honor killing” is a stupidity and it is even more stupid to call this a “Honour” Killing. Which rascal named it Honour Killing?
Shame on these people who are just morons and barbarians. There could not much we do about this, just our younger generation need to wait till these creepy minded people die off and a new culture will blossom.
– Words by Din
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I’ve reblogged http://raeindia.wordpress.com/2013/09/19/govt-of-india-if-you-care-dont-call-it-honour-killing/ thanks for the Post, and that you care…
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My children are half Indian and their mother is British Indian (both her parents born in Punjab). I love and visit the country often and have seen many sides of it; good and bad. Still, this story (I have just also read on the BBC) is actually making me feel like I need to be physically sick!
Which twisted, utterly wicked and evil thinking parent does this to their child? Or indeed anyone else’s child. It beggars belief. I thought the Taliban were bad; they seemingly could take some lessons in barbarism from these guys.
Please, please police and court in India; make an example of these monsters to show the rest of India and the world that the legal system can actually deal with criminals. The younger generation of right thinking and educated people will surely change India for the better. My prayers and thoughts are with these two souls. I hope that they are at peace and together in heaven now
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Hi Peter Knight, Thank you for sharing your care and love for the souls. That love to care for fellow human is missing here. I am glad to hear about your marriage, which is a standing proof of love that it can go beyond nations, races, religions etc.
Many here are yet to become humans here. I have seen love in animals far better than people like the killers have, I wonder what love they had for their kids and on what love they had given birth to the souls. At moments I think why I born in this country, to be frank I feel more human than being an Indian. So I too feel responsible for this happening here, there is a pressure here created by the society on the families who take it as a prestige issue or some nonsense reasons. So I feel bad that we could not do much to stop them. Even if it happens next door, I doubt how many people will come forward to help!
Here nothing speaks like law, courts and people in power as rest of the world thinks. Here Money speaks, Money runs everything. too tough for me to explain the problems in India, will take time for this society to change and become civilized.
As far as I know and I believe, Educating the younger generation will bring a change in all this. So that’s what I have taken as the purpose of my existence. Whatever I can I am doing it and taking the issue to the students, imbibing and seeding good thoughts in them. Telling stories, workshops, news, music, documentaries, whatever it takes I am trying my level best. Rest all upto God who has no name in my card!
Thanks again for your love and kind heart 🙂 Will include your comment in the next article, I will be sharing about a similar incident that happened in our region.
Peace and Love
Dinesh
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Hi Peter Knight, Thank you for sharing your care and love for the souls. That love to care for fellow human is missing here. I am glad to hear about your marriage, which is a standing proof of love that it can go beyond nations, races, religions etc.
Many here are yet to become humans here. I have seen love in animals far better than people like the killers have, I wonder what love they had for their kids and on what love they had given birth to the souls. At moments I think why I born in this country, to be frank I feel more human than being an Indian. So I too feel responsible for this happening here, there is a pressure here created by the society on the families who take it as a prestige issue or some nonsense reasons. So I feel bad that we could not do much to stop them. Even if it happens next door, I doubt how many people will come forward to help!
Here nothing speaks like law, courts and people in power as rest of the world thinks. Here Money speaks, Money runs everything. too tough for me to explain the problems in India, will take time for this society to change and become civilized.
As far as I know and I believe, Educating the younger generation will bring a change in all this. So that’s what I taken as the purpose of my existence. Whatever I can I am doing it and taking the issue to the students, imbibing and seeding good thoughts in them. Telling stories, workshops, news, music, documentaries, whatever it takes I am trying my level best. Rest all upto God who has no name in my card!
Thanks again for your love and kind heart 🙂 Will include your comment in the next article, I am sharing about a similar incident that happened in our region.
Peace and Love
Dinesh
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Reblogged this on Right Wing Nuts and Bolts and commented:
I have had many, many views from India of my article. “Shoud Women Rule the World?”. In the back of my mind, I understand that what I say must be hard for them to swallow, because they live in a society where the men , to a large degree, don’t know how to treat a woman correctly. Still, I stand behind what I wrote. Part of what I wrote is that, as the Bible says, when two become one flesh in marriage, the woman becomes part of the man. Any man who would treat his wife in such a way or degrade women in general must really hate himself, for he is degrading part of himself. In this way, then, men around the world degrade themselves and their societies by treating half of them as less than human.
The problem will not be solved by role reversal, however. In the United States, women, whether they realize it or not, are in control. But, instead of bringing equality and the end to degradation, they have turned men into second-class citizens.
Many years ago I was teaching in a preschool. It was a temporary job for me until I could afford to go back to school for my degree. Nevertheless, I took it quite seriously, passed my required course with a 4.0 grade point average (perfect score for foreigners who may not know), and worked very hard at my job. For this, I was treated with disdain by the other teachers and aids, all of whom were women. If any child anywhere near me was hurt or crying, the first thing I would hear was, “Oh, he’s a man. He doesn’t know what he’s doing.” Only when I saved two children from drowning did I get any respect. Frankly, I didn’t care about too much because I was focusing on the children. I was quickly shown that there was no place for a man around children, at least in the eyes of these women.
The world is full of selfish people. It doesn’t matter whether we are male or female, we want to be in charge. But, using our position of authority selfishly and without regard for the feelings of others creates untold hurt and dissent. Unfortunately, we pass all of these negative emotions to our children. In America, the result is that the new generation has been raised to believe that men are stupid and useless. In India, among other things, it’s the belief the children are slaves of their parents, to the point of killing a child for wanting her own life. I am the first to believe that children should obey their parents. But I am also the first to believe that parents must let their grown children make their adult decisions for themselves, not matter how badly they turn out. Once a child reaches maturity, parents’ ideas become a guide and cease to be the law. (The trend, of course, is to keep raising the age of what constitutes a child. At the same time, children are no longer encouraged to grow up and be responsible. I would think that, if a child is old enough to vote and serve in the military, then the child should be mature enough to live independently. This means that, in the US, 18-year-old people should be grown up. Unfortunately, our matriarchal society has determined that children should not leave the mother’s teat until late 20’s. Even the new health care laws allow a child to remain a child until 26. A century ago, US children had to grow up by early teens. This century’s late maturing of children is a major failure of US society.)
God gave women the privilege of childbirth. No man can do it. Therefore, we must treasure our women. The very existence of men is impossible without women. Behind every good man is a good mother. Men, on the other hand because they do not bear children, must have a role if half of society is not to be irresponsible. Men have strong backs, endurance and industriousness. Men should take the lead, then, in providing for their most precious gifts from God–their wives and their children. (And, if you are Christian, like me, you understand that God also gives men the responsibility to provide for the spiritual needs of the family. Too often, this has been wrongly delegated to mothers. Even if you have no family of your own, there are certainly enough fatherless children who could use a good male role model. Heaven knows they have enough bad ones already.)
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Reblogged this on Oyia Brown.
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Thanks again Oyia
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