On Wednesday (18-Sep-2013) evening, a village in Haryana looked on as a girl was lynched by her family, and a boy beheaded. Hours ago, they had returned to the village, thinking that their families would finally allow them to marry.
The girl’s parents and uncle have been arrested and her brother is missing since the crime, a shocking example of medieval-style killings in the name of ‘family honour‘ in Chief Minister Bhupinder Singh Hooda’s hometown, Rohtak, and in a village just 80 km from the capital.
Nidhi Barak, 20, and Dharmender Barak, 22, eloped and went to neighbouring Delhi on Tuesday, since their families back in the Gharnavati village did not approve of their relationship. Nidhi was a student of fine arts, while Dharmender was pursuing a technical course.
Nidhi’s parents allegedly persuaded her to come back, promising not to harm the young lovers.
The police say what followed was hours of torture for the couple at Nidhi’s home, ending with their death. The girl was beaten to death in full public view. The boy was brutally beaten and his arms and legs broken, before he was beheaded. His headless body was allegedly dumped at a public square in the village.
The family of the girl was allegedly caught in the act of cremating her, when a police team arrived. They had been alerted by a villager. The police then took the girl’s half-burnt body and the boy’s remains for a post-mortem.
The ages are gone where selecting your partner was mere a custom or a tradition. Marriages are now viewed on various perspectives not just as an implication by the parents. An individual who will lead the life together with someone has every right to decide whom should she / he get married. Half of the arrange marriages are done with some implied pressure on either the groom or the bride.
Many youngsters are willing to make their decision when it comes to love and marriage. In India parents still have a narrow thinking in this and hardly support if their son or daughter decides on his/her own. Some extreme decision taken by a few parents are barbaric and this act shocked me, but it is a routine in India.
The lack of maturity of the society is the cause of this kind of brutal murders. The society is the first criminal to impose some kind of social and cultural pressure on marriage, which is purely an act of commitment to live together between two souls. After a certain level even their parents do not have rights to interfere, this may be harsh for sentimentalists but a true fact of life, i.e. For a husband wife is the first and a half of his soul and vice versa for the wife. At some point parents should realize they need not to hand hold their children anymore once they are matured to handle their life. If they make any wrong decision, parents can do anything to explain them the scenario and make them realize if it is wrong. Taking “Honor killing” is a stupidity and it is even more stupid to call this a “Honour” Killing. Which rascal named it Honour Killing?
Shame on these people who are just morons and barbarians. There could not much we do about this, just our younger generation need to wait till these creepy minded people die off and a new culture will blossom.
– Words by Din