This is a translation of an episode of the popular radio program in India “Indru Oru Thagaval” means “A Message for the Day” by renowned Orator and Author Thenkachi Ko Swaminathan. The show, giving a message, was a hit and was broadcast for 12 years from 1988.
Once a father advised his son “Dear son, keep this in mind that you should always have friendship with kids who are more intelligent than you” His son replied “You are correct Dad, those who lacks behind need to be with someone who are intelligent than them! That’s why I remain that ‘More Intelligent boy’ !”. Father silently nodded.
It is so difficult to win an argument with today’s kids. Parents should encourage their kids to be smarter like this, should not confine them.
An American Psychologist advises it is good to allow the arguing habit among kids to some extend. If your kids engage with any argument with you, please do not stop them by yelling at them that they are too old to talk. There is nothing wrong in their act. It is a myth that kids will become rude in the future if they are allowed to engage in arguments with elders.
When your kids behave smarter than you, parents need to learn to be proud about it instead of feeling ashamed about it. There is no need of the Ego with your kids when you are mature enough to handle so many odd things in life. So always listen to your kids when they try to engage a conversation with you. Be patient with them.
For instance, a mother called his son who was busy playing cricket. He just replied her to wait for some time as he was batting and that is an important stage for him in his game. On such occasions mothers should understand the kids that they are sincere in what they do and have to let them do it. Please do not get angry about them and force them to leave the game. If it happens then he will feel dejected, annoyed and angry and surely this is not good for him.
Even kids have their rights to speech and psychologists do advocate this.
Another thing that happens so frequently is that kids always pester parents with questions and silly doubts. You should not go mad at them. A son asked his father “Dad, why things fall down when we drop it?”. He replied, “because gravity pulls it down, son”. Again he asked “Why Gravity pulls down, why not it pushes it up?” His father excused away on the pretext of a phone call 🙂
Yes, it is tough to answer all the questions they ask. They are curious all the time. But let them know that you will tell them the answer some other time. (Seek some help to find answers for them. Google may help a lot.)
A similar incident happened in a classroom. “Dear students, Some day the earth will be doomed, volcanoes will blast, meteors will fall on the earth and destroy everything” the teacher created a panic indeed.
A student politely stood up and asked “Sir, will that day be a holiday for us or not?” 🙂 Yes he is in his own world. So as other kids!
Courtesy - Translated Speech of Thenkachi Ko Swaminathan "A Message for the Day" (Indru Oru Thagaval) Radio Show