Marriage vs Live-in : Marriage with Love Wins :)

How many of you have adored an ideal couple who stand by each other’s side always? Like in some poetic movies I have seen couples who are committed to each other with loads and loads of infinite love filled in their soul. Come whatever may they remain together till their end. Do you adore such love? I do. Hats off to you if you are such a couple. I am getting emotional. Sometimes my eyes will meet a few blissful tears of smile straight from my heart, to see a beautiful couple by soul.

“Be a Man. Don’t cry” (I can hear some voices) “You lack human traits if you can’t cry or understand the tears” – says psychologists. 🙂 😛 There are reasons behind every drop of tears. 🙂

There are two categories of people, one of which I would like to eliminate even from considering. The Category A-people; men or women, who choose this way of life “to fall in love and believe in living with one person as his/her soul mate throughout their life”.  The Category B-people; men and women, who choose another way of life “they call it free living, they never get committed, just flirt around with opposite gender when they need them and prefer to have many partners along the period of their life”. The Category-B is eliminated, we do not need to consider them, because marriage will not be an option in their books, even if they have, it is something I consider a stupidity.

A pic of a woman and her husband, a former Marine, has gone viral on social media. Kelly and Jesse Cottle were taking family photos on the beach when the photographer, Shutter Happy Photography, asked everyone to get in the water. Jesse, a double amputee, took off his prosthetic legs and hopped on Kelly's back so she could carry him. Jesse lost his legs in Afghanistan when he stepped on an IED. "It doesn't matter how heavy he is," Kelly said. "It just makes me thankful...that he is still here." Beautiful things in life can only be felt, can never be touched

A pic of a woman and her husband, a former Marine, has gone viral on social media. Kelly and Jesse Cottle were taking family photos on the beach when the photographer, Shutter Happy Photography, asked everyone to get in the water. Jesse, a double amputee, took off his prosthetic legs and hopped on Kelly’s back so she could carry him. Jesse lost his legs in Afghanistan when he stepped on an IED. “It doesn’t matter how heavy he is,” Kelly said. “It just makes me thankfulthat he is still here.” Beautiful things in life can only be felt, can never be touched

So we take people who want to live in a committed relationship. Marriages are facing challenges from live-in style. Debated. Think once, why people marry? I hit the nail on head – A way to let the world know that the couple are living together. This would be the prime reason I would say why marriage is must for a couple who choose to be soul mates. This is not like doing it for the world or to get their approval, it is for letting the world know that you are engaged in a beautiful journey together with a man or woman you love and telling them “Do not disturb us, No more proposals entertained! ” 🙂  Other than this all the reasons are add-ons.

So say bye bye to Live-in relationships which lacks commitment and comes with “Press Option A” to Breakup, “Press Option B” to Change the partner. Both options will ruin your life, without you realizing it. It may turn you as the rejected category-B, because of frustrations and failures in your relationships. Or you may end up hating life.

The essence of your relationship is not determined because of the Ring or Mangalya that you wear as Marital custom, it is in your each other’s soul. It is in love. It is not something about physically exchanged love, which will fade gradually as we grow older. It is not about bank balances, worst future can try to dazzle our life. It is not about happiness alone, time can bring sad moments too. It is all about that one word, “LOVE” which fills, binds and held your souls together.

So you may get the picture, it is about love which you should focus. Just two rules will conclude this

  1. Never enter into marriage when you can’t love the person truly from your heart. Let your marriage begin with your love for your soul mate.
  2. Never cheat or let down your soul mate who loves you truly, come whatever may be. Even if it is Death or a Good ending happy fairy tale, be with him/her and face it together.

Note : The song in this video is from a close to my heart Hindi Movie “Rab ne bana di jodi” the lyrics says it all what is needed.

Written for IndiSpire prompt Live-in or marriage? Which is the better option & why? by Garima Nag under Love & Relationships. Thanks for the entry Garima.

Story : Look Problem from the Other’s View

When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day.

I was convinced that “I” was right and “he” was wrong – and he was just as convinced that “I” was wrong and “he” was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson.

She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. “White,” he answered.

I couldn’t believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.

The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, “White.”

It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side it was black.

Black or White

Sometimes we need to look at the problem from the other person’s view in order to truly understand his/her perspective.

- Author : Unknown

Story : Perfection is a myth in any Relationship : Learn to accept as well as change.

This is a must read story for everyone. It’s a worthy read. Do not forget to share with your friends if you like this 🙂 (use the social icons below)

There lived two good friends and others always find them inseparable. They hardly misunderstood each other, even if anything occurs they solve it immediately and move on happy for the next day.

“I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our friendship.” the first friend said. “Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together.”

The other friend agreed, so each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning,  they decided that they would go over their lists.

“I’ll start,” the first friend took out the list.

It had many items on it enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As the first friend started started reading the list of the little annoyances, the tears were starting to appear in the second friend’s eyes.

“What’s wrong?” asked the first.

“Nothing” the second one replied, “keep reading your lists.” The first one continued to read all three pages and said “I am done, Now, you read your list and then we’ll talk about the things on both of our lists.” happily.

perfectionQuietly the second friend stated,“I don’t have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don’t want you to change anything for me. You are true, lovely and wonderful and I wouldn’t want to try and change anything about you.”

The first one, touched by the honesty and the depth of the love and acceptance. Later realized what is true companionship and changed the bad attitude of seeing the negatives and started appreciating the positives.

Even the second friend, valued the feedbacks and changed many things which are really the facts.


The moral is this could not be only between friends, it could be between kids and parents too, especially between husband and wife mostly applicable. 

Misunderstandings are so common among relationships. If we truly value the relationship, we should be able to accept as well as change certain things in ourselves. Also if we try to accept as whole as possible we can reduce the conflicts. 

Note: In order to maintain a gender equality we kept the total story in a neutral way suiting any two persons of any gender.

One Line Story : “Dump Me” – Seed

“If you want to dump someone in a pit? Please do it to me !

Not to someone who believes in you”, said a Seed

– Words by Din ( Inspired Thoughts )


“Accept Beloved Ones”!


Sometimes people get coldhearted and throw stones on beloved ones.
The beloved souls never leave as stones are thrown at them.
Instead they look for returning to you whatever you hurt!

Hiding somewhere, like a scared pet!
Longing for your lovely hug,
Like some golden days of the past.

Holding a grudge kills love!
Longing there right now are Millions
Parents, Kids, Wives, Husbands,
Brothers, Sisters, Lovers, Friends…

Look they may be somewhere
Hiding, looking at you!
Longing for your love!
So what are you waiting for?

Accept them!
It’s one life!
Live to the Fullest!

– Words by Din