Perspective : How Women should be dressed?

Feminists

This is not a moral policing article 🙂 however may give you an unbiased perspective about dress codes in a simple way.

One can wear any dress as they prefer. However, every individual should understand the term social etiquette according to the civilization where they are and act accordingly.

When I was a kid, I saw an old man who got into a bus wearing only a Langoti, he was a village man. Everyone yelled him and the conductor pushed that poor man literally out of the bus. I felt so sad and bad about the people’s behaviour.

I wonder how this trendy world would react if they see such a man or a man with no shirt on a city road, now? This is the social etiquette I am trying to convey. As a society, we expect something from individuals, and they are expected to follow it.

And feminism!! that is just hyped term. Women who want to be free are still free and they achieve whatever they want and wear whatever they wish, without any hurdle. Only those who want the society to accept their way of thinking always speak, “feminism!, feminism!”

Freedom is taken not given.  Take your freedom, but realize the fact that every freedom has a limit, which is something the individual need to decide in accordance with the civilization where he/she lives. Adjust to your society or be bold enough to face criticism and stand out confidently! Nothing is wrong or right, only it is a matter of acceptance of the majority.

- Din

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A Must Read Letter To All Parents and Children

If you’ve failed to understand your child’s childhood then never expect that child to understand you when he/she become a grown-up individual.

Every parent and children must readWhen you child is angry or disappointed or creating havoc in your home, he/she needs either the father or the mother to sit with him and talk calmly about what could have been bothered the child. But most of the parents end up bashing on them verbally or even beat them up. If you are harsh on your child that will never make them learn anything.

Your children learn from you. Engrave this line to your soul. They learn from the little things you do at your home.

What happens when you fail miserably as a good parent?

1. Your children may carry the same personality of yours and will continue to spoil the next generation. Before they develop a consciousness to analyse and understand what behaviour of their parents, their own personality will be shaped up almost like the mirror image of their parents.

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2. Your children may develop an anti-personality of yours’. It starts as a longing for what they never got from their parents. Unfulfilled expectations and love will turn as their character. But the painful side of this story is, these children will have to go through an isolation. In order to develop an anti-personality of a bad parent (unlike their parents they will be good), for this these kids will have to go through a lot of stress.

There is a fortune which is not in our hands. Getting a good parent is a children’s luck. But every child is born as a good child, making them bad or letting them go bad is in parents’ hands.

Good children who got good parents will shine in their life by default. This is not about fame or wealthy living, but overall happiness of the family will be higher and one can find a peaceful life in such families.

Good children who got bad parents, it is the fate of the family and the future will be decided based on who changes for whom! They will make a happy family if the parents change their attitude and understand the intentions of the children. It will always be a battle for the children to balance their own life as well as trying to keep their parents at understanding level.

forgiveBad children who got good parents! Can this happen? Unfortunately, some children get spoiled due to bad acquaintances, though they got good parents who always come forward to talk to them, understands them completely. The happiness of such families is just a step ahead. Because changing young minds is easier than changing older minds. Good parents can always win.

Overall, everything has to start from us, the individuals. With your experience and maturity as a parent, when you cannot understand your children, please do not expect that poor kids to understand you and dance to your tunes, with their little understanding and maturity levels in life. More wise the soul, more adaptability should have to be there to adjust and accept. So as a parent need  you to decide, whether you want to be wiser or expect your children to be wiser? Even this choice will reflect how wise you are in real.

As the children, we also need to understand that certain things never change after a particular age. Rather complaining what is wrong with your parents try to ignore it and but maintain that rightful thing in you. For example, your parents may never have the habit of talking to you calmly, but you develop such a character for your children in the future. Whatever you missed give them to your kids. Try explaining your parents, if they never show a sign of development, please tolerate them for the rest of your life. But never get your own good values compromised to satisfy their unjust expectations.

Whether you may be a parent to your children or children to your parent, try to understand what is happening in the other side!

The future is always in our hands, if we are ready to make the changes in the present.


– Din


Book : The Second Life

The Second Life

“There comes a moment in your life when you feel terribly vulnerable, helpless without any hope and faith, and alas you forget the fact – your helplessness can never leave you irreparably shattered. Trust me, sometimes at this very moment, ‘newness’ from nowhere will intervene in your life and change everything. Just everything. That newness brings in front of you a more inspirational and exciting journey known as THE SECOND LIFE.

An Awesome compilation of unique stories and they titled it so apt as The Second Life. Take my words some characters of the stories will not leave you forever. The writers have given their best works here, you will echo my views when you read the stories.

You can get the book here (Click)

Here is the list of the Authors and their respective stories

1. Aathira Jim- ‘I am Sita’
2. Aayesha Hakim- ‘In the Classroom of Life’
3. Abhik Chakraborty- ‘The hug of Ishwar and Allah’
4. Anirootha K R- ‘Everything happens for a reason’
5. Archana Mishra- ‘The Blanket’
6. Deepti Menon- ‘Jasmine at the doorstep’
7. Garima Behal- ‘Thank you, Samar’
8. J. Alchem- ‘The Highway man’
9. Madhurima Halder- ‘The girl with a glass of cocktail’
10. Nalini Chandran- ‘Faith can move mountains’
11. Neha Somani- ‘The Long Winding Corridor’
12. Preethi Venugopal- ‘The Arabian Dream’
13. Preeti Singh- ‘A mother’s miracle’
14. Prity S Pujari- ‘Love is for beginners’
15. Renuka Vishwanathan- ‘When love has gone’
16. Saral Joshi- ‘Yes!’
17. Shrruti Patole Clarence- ‘A daughter’s diary’
18. Shruti Fatehpuria- ‘Wildrose and Snowflake’
19. Shubham Singh- ‘That kid in the corner’
20. Shubhi Mehrotra- ‘A piece of paper’
21. Smriti Mahale- ‘Through her eyes’
22. Somya Singh- ‘Joy to the world’
23. Sunanya Pal- ‘Khushboo- the fragrance of Kindness’
24. Swagnikaa Roy- ”Phoenix”
25. Trippayar Sahasranaman Priyaa- ‘A thing of beauty’


In this “Books” Section, we are glad to feature the other books written by the Authors who had contributed their stories for our upcoming anthology Blank Space as a token of our love and gratitude. 
Best Wishes 🙂 – Team – Propel Steps.
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Story : Eagle and Storm

Soaring Eagle

Did you know that an eagle knows when a storm is approaching long before it breaks?

The eagle will fly to some high spot and wait for the winds to come.

When the storm hits, it sets its wings so that the wind will pick it up and lift it above the storm. While the storm rages below, the eagle is soaring above it.

The eagle does not escape the storm. It simply uses the storm to lift it higher. It rises on the winds that bring the storm.

When the storms of life come upon us, like the eagle, we can rise above them and ride the winds of the storm that bring sickness, tragedy, failure, and disappointment into our lives.

What is your greatest challenge right now? Jot it down. And then let it lift you higher.

May be English – an Alien Language !

English is alien language

This is for Non-native English Speakers and Learners 🙂

English is an alien language in our home. May be in your home too if you were born in a family which uses a non-English mother tongue. What happens when your family, friends and neighbours also belong to similar families? Well to know that you can visit Tamil Nadu and many parts of India. Also in China you could explore such a scenario.

Welcome to all English using debutant 🙂

All it had begun with A for Apple, when my father enrolled me in a Matric school. The Experience with English for me and my friends remained only with the books and exams. We had no such strict rules in the 90’s as the present schools have. Yes they had not fined us for speaking in Tamil, so except for writing the tests and homework we never used English elsewhere. This probably the reason we are good at our mother tongue. Now a days kids must have to talk in English within the school campus and even many parents continue the same in their homes.

But we were not! Most of the parents including mine, Tamil is the medium of communication in our homes, and while we friends played cricket or any social gatherings we never used English. Okay, what about learning English as a subject. Well, that typically ended with marks. Especially at higher grades when we had paper II on grammar, our teachers equipped us with special techniques to score marks, even I doubt Oxford Professors may not know their tricks 🙂

My sincere attempts to learn and speak in English had begun when I was in my 5th std, if my memory is correct. I had an opportunity to speak to a foreigner, probably she might be interested to talk to me because I was a little and chubby boy. I managed mostly with “Yes” and “No” and by asking her the questions. Later, I remember an incident at my second school, during my 11th grade. When my English teacher made so many red underlines on a speech that I had prepared, I gave up almost but that incident challenged me to take up the task of learning English so seriously. I pestered my parents to get me The Hindu Newspaper though I hardly understood much of the news, except the Sports page and TV programs’ Schedule. Editorials was never in my options to read.

There was another story why I had decided ‘NO’ to Engineering, though I was a top scorer and opted my graduation in Business Management. So I had no other option to get fluency in English, not for surviving the college but for my future career. I was then still in a rural backdrop, so talking in English in our college was an element to mock a fun. That was the time I decided to break the Ice, we organized regular mini-seminars at lunch breaks and practiced. As expected many made fun on me and a few of my friends who tried it. But eventually I broke my stage fear. In my school days I used to act in Drama and Skits that experience also had helped me in facing people.

One trick I identified was “the mirror experiment”, just like many I also had tried to ask questions and answered them in English. By the time when I got out of my college, I was an odd one out who could speak better English than many. Shyness was the wall which had stopped many of the students, even today many students from rural backdrops still face the same issue.

Then came the next phase, Job Interviews and Professional Arena 🙂 By this time I had moved to Bangalore, so there was no other option for me. Since my academic records are good, all I needed to focus was to take care of my attitude and present myself better in the interview, which I did better to bag my offer letter from Infosys. But I had not joined there 🙂

Then everything happened was like planned, I got into HR field, had begun as a Recruiter, then Executive generalist, then got into other functional areas… Finally, I had been transformed into a Trainer, when I had completed 4 years of my work. Thanks to all stones thrown on my professional and personal life, which helped me shape up myself as a strong personality. When I stepped out of my small town, I was emotionally fragile, for the next four years I had no opportunity to get back to Tamilnadu. So English was my only companion to express my thoughts. Eventually, I got little exposure to Hindi and Telugu as well.

Today, I have developed myself far better than that guy I was in my past. I never compare myself with anyone, I may not be better when compared to the standards of what others perceive, but I am getting better than where I stood yesterday! 🙂 I am still daring to write a blog, scribble some quotes / thoughts, managing to write some stories… Of course, my errors make me a better learner.

There are 3 things that I have learned about learning any alien language 🙂

  1. Never feel shy about making mistakes, you will obviously do it, everyone did it.
  2. Keep on practising, regardless of whatever feedback you may get.
  3. Realize it is just another language, but not a skill! Better you understand the lexical structure of you mother tongue, you will understand other languages so easily.

There are 3 things that you should not do with someone who tries to learn English / other language

  1. Do not make fun of them, instead get involved in a conversation to help their learning.
  2. When they make mistakes, correct them if they ask you for it, but do not try to find mistakes every time, which may demotivate them.
  3. Talk to people in a simple way, do not try to show your expertise with Jargons. Believe me, your communication is just a failure, at the very moment when the listeners do not understand it.
- Din