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A Must Read Letter To All Parents and Children
If you’ve failed to understand your child’s childhood then never expect that child to understand you when he/she become a grown-up individual.
When you child is angry or disappointed or creating havoc in your home, he/she needs either the father or the mother to sit with him and talk calmly about what could have been bothered the child. But most of the parents end up bashing on them verbally or even beat them up. If you are harsh on your child that will never make them learn anything.
Your children learn from you. Engrave this line to your soul. They learn from the little things you do at your home.
What happens when you fail miserably as a good parent?
1. Your children may carry the same personality of yours and will continue to spoil the next generation. Before they develop a consciousness to analyse and understand what behaviour of their parents, their own personality will be shaped up almost like the mirror image of their parents.
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2. Your children may develop an anti-personality of yours’. It starts as a longing for what they never got from their parents. Unfulfilled expectations and love will turn as their character. But the painful side of this story is, these children will have to go through an isolation. In order to develop an anti-personality of a bad parent (unlike their parents they will be good), for this these kids will have to go through a lot of stress.
There is a fortune which is not in our hands. Getting a good parent is a children’s luck. But every child is born as a good child, making them bad or letting them go bad is in parents’ hands.
Good children who got good parents will shine in their life by default. This is not about fame or wealthy living, but overall happiness of the family will be higher and one can find a peaceful life in such families.
Good children who got bad parents, it is the fate of the family and the future will be decided based on who changes for whom! They will make a happy family if the parents change their attitude and understand the intentions of the children. It will always be a battle for the children to balance their own life as well as trying to keep their parents at understanding level.
Bad children who got good parents! Can this happen? Unfortunately, some children get spoiled due to bad acquaintances, though they got good parents who always come forward to talk to them, understands them completely. The happiness of such families is just a step ahead. Because changing young minds is easier than changing older minds. Good parents can always win.
Overall, everything has to start from us, the individuals. With your experience and maturity as a parent, when you cannot understand your children, please do not expect that poor kids to understand you and dance to your tunes, with their little understanding and maturity levels in life. More wise the soul, more adaptability should have to be there to adjust and accept. So as a parent need you to decide, whether you want to be wiser or expect your children to be wiser? Even this choice will reflect how wise you are in real.
As the children, we also need to understand that certain things never change after a particular age. Rather complaining what is wrong with your parents try to ignore it and but maintain that rightful thing in you. For example, your parents may never have the habit of talking to you calmly, but you develop such a character for your children in the future. Whatever you missed give them to your kids. Try explaining your parents, if they never show a sign of development, please tolerate them for the rest of your life. But never get your own good values compromised to satisfy their unjust expectations.
Whether you may be a parent to your children or children to your parent, try to understand what is happening in the other side!
The future is always in our hands, if we are ready to make the changes in the present.
Do You Scream at your kids for School Grades?
What would you do?
If you confront a mother, scream at her kid for a school grade!
Do you ever scream at your kids? It’s time to think and change!
A Message for the Day : Children are Curious
This is a translation of an episode of the popular radio program in India “Indru Oru Thagaval” means “A Message for the Day” by renowned Orator and Author Thenkachi Ko Swaminathan. The show, giving a message, was a hit and was broadcast for 12 years from 1988.
Once a father advised his son “Dear son, keep this in mind that you should always have friendship with kids who are more intelligent than you” His son replied “You are correct Dad, those who lacks behind need to be with someone who are intelligent than them! That’s why I remain that ‘More Intelligent boy’ !”. Father silently nodded.
It is so difficult to win an argument with today’s kids. Parents should encourage their kids to be smarter like this, should not confine them.
An American Psychologist advises it is good to allow the arguing habit among kids to some extend. If your kids engage with any argument with you, please do not stop them by yelling at them that they are too old to talk. There is nothing wrong in their act. It is a myth that kids will become rude in the future if they are allowed to engage in arguments with elders.
When your kids behave smarter than you, parents need to learn to be proud about it instead of feeling ashamed about it. There is no need of the Ego with your kids when you are mature enough to handle so many odd things in life. So always listen to your kids when they try to engage a conversation with you. Be patient with them.
Try to understand their logic and reasoning for what they have done or about to do. There are parents who just act like listening and keep their mind somewhere, this is nothing but a negligence.
For instance, a mother called his son who was busy playing cricket. He just replied her to wait for some time as he was batting and that is an important stage for him in his game. On such occasions mothers should understand the kids that they are sincere in what they do and have to let them do it. Please do not get angry about them and force them to leave the game. If it happens then he will feel dejected, annoyed and angry and surely this is not good for him.
Even kids have their rights to speech and psychologists do advocate this.
Another thing that happens so frequently is that kids always pester parents with questions and silly doubts. You should not go mad at them. A son asked his father “Dad, why things fall down when we drop it?”. He replied, “because gravity pulls it down, son”. Again he asked “Why Gravity pulls down, why not it pushes it up?” His father excused away on the pretext of a phone call 🙂
Yes, it is tough to answer all the questions they ask. They are curious all the time. But let them know that you will tell them the answer some other time. (Seek some help to find answers for them. Google may help a lot.)
A similar incident happened in a classroom. “Dear students, Some day the earth will be doomed, volcanoes will blast, meteors will fall on the earth and destroy everything” the teacher created a panic indeed.
A student politely stood up and asked “Sir, will that day be a holiday for us or not?” 🙂 Yes he is in his own world. So as other kids!
Courtesy - Translated Speech of Thenkachi Ko Swaminathan "A Message for the Day" (Indru Oru Thagaval) Radio Show
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