Awesome Humans : Darshan Kumar – The Cab Driver

We found this conversation posted on facebook, originally said to be written by Dipesh Karki via The Analytical Indian. We felt this is a must share post. You will understand once you read the same.

Darshan Kumar

Name : Darshan Kumar.
Age: 75
Occupation : Cab Driver.

“I, along with my friend, got down at Sion station and started looking for black and yellow cabs to IMAX Wadala to watch Avengers. But none of the cabs was ready to go. And then came this old man who agreed to take us along. As soon as I got in, I noticed that he was very old, shaky hands, stammering voice. I was really surprised to see how this old Grandpa was driving this black and yellow cab and why was he driving it? I couldn’t hold myself from getting into a conversation with him.

(He first took another unfamiliar road, so I immediately asked.)
Me:” Ji, why are we going this way? Isn’t Wadala the opposite way?”
He: I’m using a shortcut and if you think I should go by the other way, you can tell me.
Me: No, it’s okay.
(after a while…)
Me: “Ji, how old are you?”
He(Grandpa): “Beta (Son), I am 75.”

Me: “Why are you driving at THIS age? Is it because of your passion or compulsion?”
He: “Beta, I don’t have any helping hands. My children are good for nothing. I have to earn my living BUT begging is beyond my attitude. So, you may call it a compulsion but I am doing it for myself.”
(I was like “RESPECT YOU SIR” from inside, mute for a moment.)
Me: “How long have you been in this profession?”
He:”Since last 50 years.”
Kunal(My friend): “So can you see clearly?”
He:”You observe it yourself beta, I am driving smooth and like a gentleman.”
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(All of us laughed at this.)
He:”Thanks to good Lord that unlike many old people of my age, I am physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually fit. I will continue with my service as long as I live. But I will never beg.”
Kunal:”Where are you originally from?”
He:”I am from Punjab.”
Me:”We both did our engineering from Kurukshetra, so we are quite acquainted with Haryana and Punjab.”

He:”My eldest son, he is in Panipat, doing some business of motor part and earning in crores. But he doesn’t want me. I have a daughter who is married to a rich guy in Delhi and they also have their own business. She doesn’t want me either. My youngest son is an officer in some good bank. He kept me with him for about three months, used to give me Rs. 1500/- as monthly expenses. But the other two didn’t like it and were constantly taunting him about this. I didn’t feel good about it so left them with their lives and came to Mumbai to earn my living.”

(We were speechless…)
Me:”So where is your wife?”
He:”She passed away.”
Me:”So you live alone here?”
He:”Yes beta, I live nearby Parle in a rented room. I pay Rs. 2500 as rent, have my own kitchen and cook my own food. I go home and wash this cloth immediately and wear it tomorrow AGAIN. During the day, I drive. That simply sums up my life here. But I am positive. I don’t count days, I work to make each day fruitful.”
Me:”I really appreciate your enthusiasm. In this country where there are beggars turned to billionaires, you are proudly struggling to earn your life. We are really inspired by your enthusiasm and we respect you for that.”

(He felt good about it and smiled back.)
By then we had reached IMax Wadala and surprisingly the fare was approximately Rs. 10/- less than my usual routes.
I gave him hundred rupees and said,” Sir, please keep the change. Consider it as a small token of respect from us for your honesty and positivity towards life.”
He really felt very happy and said “Thank you beta.”
I then asked him “Can I take a picture of you? I wish to share your thoughts and ideas on the Internet. Your work can inspire many people out there. Also, after seeing you, if any Mumbaikar noticed you on the internet and found you on road driving, they would ALWAYS choose your cab over others.
He,” Ha-ha, sure beta.”

I clicked his picture, shook hands with him and bid farewell. I really felt so glad to have met him.
Darshan Kumar’s story deserves a share, so please share this guy’s story and motivate the generation.”


Credits and Courtesy : Dipesh Karki via The Analytical Indian


A Must Read Letter To All Parents and Children

If you’ve failed to understand your child’s childhood then never expect that child to understand you when he/she become a grown-up individual.

Every parent and children must readWhen you child is angry or disappointed or creating havoc in your home, he/she needs either the father or the mother to sit with him and talk calmly about what could have been bothered the child. But most of the parents end up bashing on them verbally or even beat them up. If you are harsh on your child that will never make them learn anything.

Your children learn from you. Engrave this line to your soul. They learn from the little things you do at your home.

What happens when you fail miserably as a good parent?

1. Your children may carry the same personality of yours and will continue to spoil the next generation. Before they develop a consciousness to analyse and understand what behaviour of their parents, their own personality will be shaped up almost like the mirror image of their parents.

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2. Your children may develop an anti-personality of yours’. It starts as a longing for what they never got from their parents. Unfulfilled expectations and love will turn as their character. But the painful side of this story is, these children will have to go through an isolation. In order to develop an anti-personality of a bad parent (unlike their parents they will be good), for this these kids will have to go through a lot of stress.

There is a fortune which is not in our hands. Getting a good parent is a children’s luck. But every child is born as a good child, making them bad or letting them go bad is in parents’ hands.

Good children who got good parents will shine in their life by default. This is not about fame or wealthy living, but overall happiness of the family will be higher and one can find a peaceful life in such families.

Good children who got bad parents, it is the fate of the family and the future will be decided based on who changes for whom! They will make a happy family if the parents change their attitude and understand the intentions of the children. It will always be a battle for the children to balance their own life as well as trying to keep their parents at understanding level.

forgiveBad children who got good parents! Can this happen? Unfortunately, some children get spoiled due to bad acquaintances, though they got good parents who always come forward to talk to them, understands them completely. The happiness of such families is just a step ahead. Because changing young minds is easier than changing older minds. Good parents can always win.

Overall, everything has to start from us, the individuals. With your experience and maturity as a parent, when you cannot understand your children, please do not expect that poor kids to understand you and dance to your tunes, with their little understanding and maturity levels in life. More wise the soul, more adaptability should have to be there to adjust and accept. So as a parent need  you to decide, whether you want to be wiser or expect your children to be wiser? Even this choice will reflect how wise you are in real.

As the children, we also need to understand that certain things never change after a particular age. Rather complaining what is wrong with your parents try to ignore it and but maintain that rightful thing in you. For example, your parents may never have the habit of talking to you calmly, but you develop such a character for your children in the future. Whatever you missed give them to your kids. Try explaining your parents, if they never show a sign of development, please tolerate them for the rest of your life. But never get your own good values compromised to satisfy their unjust expectations.

Whether you may be a parent to your children or children to your parent, try to understand what is happening in the other side!

The future is always in our hands, if we are ready to make the changes in the present.


– Din


Story : 55 Fiction : Don’t Fight!

Squabble

They sneaked through the blanket as the echoes of their squabble had woken up them.

“They tell us ‘Don’t fight!’, but why they always fight?” little Kayal hazily asked.

“Because no one is there to tell them ‘Don’t fight!’” twin Kalyan continued “That’s why they left Grandpa and Grandma!”

Suddenly the echoes dropped to silence!

- Din

Do You Scream at your kids for School Grades?

What would you do?

If you confront a mother, scream at her kid for a school grade!

Do you ever scream at your kids? It’s time to think and change!

A Message for the Day : Children are Curious

This is a translation of an episode of the popular radio program in India “Indru Oru Thagaval” means “A Message for the Day” by renowned Orator and Author Thenkachi Ko Swaminathan. The show, giving a message, was a hit and was broadcast for 12 years from 1988.

Once a father advised his son “Dear son, keep this in mind that you should always have friendship with kids who are more intelligent than you” His son replied “You are correct Dad, those who lacks behind need to be with someone who are intelligent than them! That’s why I remain that ‘More Intelligent boy’ !”. Father silently nodded.

It is so difficult to win an argument with today’s kids. Parents should encourage their kids to be smarter like this, should not confine them.

An American Psychologist advises it is good to allow the arguing habit among kids to some extend. If your kids engage with any argument with you, please do not stop them by yelling at them that they are too old to talk. There is nothing wrong in their act. It is a myth that kids will become rude in the future if they are allowed to engage in arguments with elders.

When your kids behave smarter than you, parents need to learn to be proud about it instead of feeling ashamed about it. There is no need of the Ego with your kids when you are mature enough to handle so many odd things in life. So always listen to your kids when they try to engage a conversation with you. Be patient with them.

KidsTry to understand their logic and reasoning for what they have done or about to do. There are parents who just act like listening and keep their mind somewhere, this is nothing but a negligence.

For instance, a mother called his son who was busy playing cricket. He just replied her to wait for some time as he was batting and that is an important stage for him in his game. On such occasions mothers should understand the kids that they are sincere in what they do and have to let them do it. Please do not get angry about them and force them to leave the game. If it happens then he will feel dejected, annoyed and angry and surely this is not good for him.

Even kids have their rights to speech and psychologists do advocate this.

Another thing that happens so frequently is that kids always pester parents with questions and silly doubts. You should not go mad at them. A son asked his father “Dad, why things fall down when we drop it?”. He replied, “because gravity pulls it down, son”. Again he asked “Why Gravity pulls down, why not it pushes it up?” His father excused away on the pretext of a phone call 🙂

Yes, it is tough to answer all the questions they ask. They are curious all the time. But let them know that you will tell them the answer some other time. (Seek some help to find answers for them. Google may help a lot.)

A similar incident happened in a classroom. “Dear students, Some day the earth will be doomed, volcanoes will blast, meteors will fall on the earth and destroy everything” the teacher created a panic indeed.

A student politely stood up and asked “Sir, will that day be a holiday for us or not?” 🙂 Yes he is in his own world. So as other kids!

Courtesy - 
Translated Speech of Thenkachi Ko Swaminathan 
"A Message for the Day" (Indru Oru Thagaval) Radio Show