Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on her. I wondered if this was the cockroach’s response to all the glory that was spoken about it! She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started doing jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos. It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized even in my case then, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that hurts me.
Differentiate Success and Failure : Attitude Differentiate Good and Bad : Happiness Differentiate Love and Hate : Peace of Mind Differentiate God and Evil : Selflessness Differentiate Life and Death : Purpose
Once, a man who was tired of trying out different methods for attaining peace of mind, as suggested by various saintly persons, came to Swami Vivekananda and said, ” I sit in a closed room and meditate for hours, but I am not able to attain peace of mind.” Vivekananda said to him, “First and foremost, keep the door of the room open. Then, look around for unhappy, diseased and hungry people and serve them in whatever way you can.”
For this, the man asked, “But what if I fall ill while serving diseased persons?” On hearing this doubt, Vivekananda replied, “I can say that you tend to find one fault or the other in every good task, which is why you are not able to get peace of mind. One should not wait for too long to begin an auspicious task. Similarly, one should not find faults in it. This is the only way of attaining peace of mind.”
People assume their actions and its results as an act of the God / Fate / Time, if it is positive they praise, if negative, they blame what they believed. Wise people know the presence of God is inside the soul, some accept it as God, some call it the inner Conscious!, they never blame/praise someone external for what happens in their lives, they accept their actions and reactions positively.